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Keep Your Flaws To Yourself

Keep Your Flaws To Yourself

Juan Esterhuizen Transformation & Life Coach

Keep Your Flaws To Yourself

There is no benefit in discussing your flaws and failures with others. Too often, people discuss their flaws and failures with anyone willing to listen. They invite those who are prepared to listen to them to their pity parties where they expose their self-doubt and showcase it. People who engage in this behaviour thrive on the attention and sympathy they receive. Constantly portraying oneself as a victim or failure only attracts more negative experiences. Instead of dwelling on past hardships, rather choose to focus on your personal growth. When you make this a habit, it will become self-perpetuating and your life will change for the better.

Determine what you truly want and then take action to make it a reality. Set clear goals and take concrete steps to achieve them. Remember that true happiness is to be found within. The world outside is created from within and governed by the law of attraction. The inner world is a wellspring of creativity, and everything encountered in the external world is a manifestation of what has been generated internally. The world within is the cause, and the world outside is the effect.

To change the result, you must first modify the root cause. If there is chaos in your external world, it may indicate that there is turmoil within you. Take a moment and ask yourself, "What does my life look like? What thoughts dominate my mind? How do I usually feel?" Take some time for introspection and examine your current circumstances. If you are honest with yourself, you will realise how your thoughts and emotions are reflected in your circumstances. If you are experiencing conflict, struggle, hate, anger, depression, or low self-esteem, it will reflect in your external world. This is how the law of attraction and reciprocity works. You attract what you constantly think about, and your persistent thoughts shape your life story. What you seek in life cannot be attained by trying to control the outside world. Remember that you neither have carte blanche nor the power to control people or circumstances. The best way to achieve lasting results is by changing yourself. True power can only be found within oneself. If you persist in using the same ineffective techniques that have not yielded the desired outcomes, there will be no progress. You will remain stuck in your current paradigm.

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Keep Your Flaws To Yourself

Juan Esterhuizen Transformation Psychologist & Life Coach

Juan Esterhuizen Transformation & Life Coach is an integrative life coach and trauma release therapist, based in Caledon. Offering a range of exclusive in-person and online counselling services, Juan is also available to travel to your destination for therapy sessions, locally and internationally. D...

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