Embrace the Bigger Picture
To achieve the life you envision, you must recognise that you are the change that will make it possible.
There is a distinct difference between being aggressive and standing true to your boundaries.
Aggression often stems from a feeling of being powerless, that we do not "count" in the scenario. It comes from a perceived attack on the individual. When we suppress that feeling of disempowerment, it turns into an internal battle. While you are not outwardly showing your aggression, you most certainly can feel it internally. Your mind is racing with limiting beliefs and thoughts as you are "fighting" with yourself to be heard and seen. This could carry on eternally, or until there is an unexplainable and excessive "explosion."
Knowing who and what you are, your strengths, and your current focus of growth, it becomes easier to stand strong in your boundaries. You no longer want to enter a battlefield. "No" becomes a full sentence, and you are confident in why you say no. The continued battle long after the event does not happen; instead, you continue focusing on where you are going.
The passive-aggressive choice eventually leads to stress, which leads to health problems. The confident choice leads to personal growth and a focus on goals, ultimately achieving those goals.
Don't buy into the fear that accompanies passive aggression. Make a choice to know your true amazing self and harness the power of your confidence.
The poison of suppression is not worth the "fake" peace.
Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...
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