Codependency Is Not Love
You give, and give, and give… hoping that one day, it will be enough.
We live in a world where we see everything as wrong or right. Our whole existence, how we perceive the world, is made up of beliefs.The truth is that there is no wrong in the beliefs we formed. Every belief is formed in a moment with the knowledge available to us in that moment.
As we grow and develop emotionally we discover that some beliefs no longer serve us. Unfortunately habit keeps us trapped in those beliefs with the accompanying behaviour. One of our greatest fears is to let go of these limiting beliefs. We know how to function within the limitations, but who are we when we let go?
As a result we find that life becomes hard because we are in constant battle between habit and our developing self - and ultimately this leads to a path of "long". Does that make the belief wrong? No, if it serves you, or served you, it delivered on the intention. Now it is no longer valid.
So we can choose to suffer through our long path to growth and development (I struggled and searched for 6 years wanting and knowing something needs to change, but too scared to take a leap), or we can ask for guidance and learn new tools and concepts that can allow us to shorten the path and experience more of the wonder of life.
Will you choose long or are you ready to transform?
Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...
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Somewhere along the way, you started believing that to love fully, you had to lose yourself.
Because somewhere along the way, we were taught that love means sacrificing ourselves.
How many times have you found yourself stuck in the same pattern, facing the same struggle, only with a new face or a different setting?
You were never broken. You were just waiting to remember who you are.
The battles you fight inside - the ones filled with self-doubt, fear, and the endless "what ifs" - aren’t there to punish you.