Codependency Is Not Love
You give, and give, and give… hoping that one day, it will be enough.
If you believe that your happy life is out there, waiting for you to be discovered, you will be the eternal conqueror. You will be "fighting" battle after battle to discover where your happiness is hiding. You might "taste" it from time to time, but it will escape your grasp and you will be back on the road to find it.
Once we realise that our happiness can only be found within, we become the creator of the happiness. Even that split second of happiness that you found "out there" was something you could feel within. Happiness can only be generated from within.
When happiness is your status quo it is yours to have for always. It is there every moment to enjoy. It becomes such a familiar environment that you forget to search outside and you focus on doing everything that will keep you in that state.
Love is our natural state. Happiness is one of the feeders of that love. It can only be mastered within.
Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...
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Read MoreYou give, and give, and give… hoping that one day, it will be enough.
Somewhere along the way, you started believing that to love fully, you had to lose yourself.
Because somewhere along the way, we were taught that love means sacrificing ourselves.
How many times have you found yourself stuck in the same pattern, facing the same struggle, only with a new face or a different setting?
You were never broken. You were just waiting to remember who you are.
The battles you fight inside - the ones filled with self-doubt, fear, and the endless "what ifs" - aren’t there to punish you.