20 Days to Christmas: Check-off Time
Is there anything you didn’t manage to complete this week?

Blaming yourself for a broken relationship is like walking around with a wound you never tend to - it hurts, it festers, and it steals your joy. But here's the truth:
Blame is a trap. It keeps you stuck in the past, fueling shame, guilt, and endless “what ifs.”
Responsibility, however, is power. It’s the brave act of saying: “This is what I accepted, this is how I responded, and now I choose differently.”
"Blaming yourself for the lost relationship leads to self-abuse. Taking responsibility for your role in the relationship, places you in power."
If you’ve stepped out of a relationship with a narcissist, you’ve likely questioned everything—your worth, your decisions, your identity. That’s not your fault. You were manipulated to doubt yourself.
But now, you have the chance to rebuild from the inside out. When you stop pointing fingers inward and start gently holding yourself accountable, healing begins.
• You learn.
• You grow.
• You take back control.
• You build emotional strength that no one can shake.
You are not broken - you are becoming.
It’s time to stop the cycle of self-blame and start the journey of self-respect and growth.
Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...
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