Codependency Is Not Love
You give, and give, and give… hoping that one day, it will be enough.
Your anger can never create the desired outcome. It will result in the opposite - and you will feel more lost and alone.
Take a deep breath with me for a moment.
You don’t want to explode. You don’t want to be misunderstood or carry the guilt afterward. But in that heated second, it feels like the only way to be heard… to protect yourself… to feel in control.
I want to gently remind you: before that next moment of anger, pause and ask yourself, “What do I really want here?”
Because I know - it’s not to push people away. It’s not to hurt.
It’s to feel safe. To feel seen. To feel okay.
And I promise you this: there’s another way.
A way that honors you first - your peace, your dignity, your heart.
A way that brings connection, not isolation. Strength, not regret.
Learn to respond with intention, not reaction.
Build the inner tools to handle the storm without becoming it.
You are not your anger. You are far more powerful than that.
Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...
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Read MoreYou give, and give, and give… hoping that one day, it will be enough.
Somewhere along the way, you started believing that to love fully, you had to lose yourself.
Because somewhere along the way, we were taught that love means sacrificing ourselves.
How many times have you found yourself stuck in the same pattern, facing the same struggle, only with a new face or a different setting?
You were never broken. You were just waiting to remember who you are.
The battles you fight inside - the ones filled with self-doubt, fear, and the endless "what ifs" - aren’t there to punish you.