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A Leader Who Seeks Approval Becomes Controlled by It

A Leader Who Seeks Approval Becomes Controlled by It

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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A Leader Who Seeks Approval Becomes Controlled by It

“A leader who acts to be accepted or acknowledged is controlled by those whose approval he/she is seeking.”

No all leaders are comfortable and confident in their leadership role.

Leaders could be plagued by feelings of “not deserving” the role or even an imposter syndrome.

Because of this, they feel that they must work harder to be accepted and recognised for their position.

This often leads to too high expectations of the team, not recognising the individual team members and where they need guidance.

The leader may often change their mind, because they are unsure of their future vision, out of fear of not being good enough, a need to be recognised, and to be accepted in their role.

To be a leader is more than knowledge and qualifications.

A leader becomes the “guru” both professionally and emotionally.

To step up into leadership asks of the leader to be emotionally confident and to be open to personal growth.

When the leader does not believe in themselves, it is easy for the team to manipulate.

It is also possible that the perception of the leader is to prove themselves.

All of this makes the leader vulnerable and insecure.

As a leader, never avoid the emotional and personal challenges.

They become the gateway to reaching even higher levels of leadership.

You already deserve the position due to your professional skills and qualifications.

Now is the time to master your belief structures, your emotional intelligence, and the focus and commitment to achieve your greatest goal.

You have achieved so much already, you can do this.

A Leader Who Seeks Approval Becomes Controlled by It

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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