Reclaiming Yourself After Emotional Manipulation

Reclaiming Yourself After Emotional Manipulation

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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Reclaiming Yourself After Emotional Manipulation

Every person carries trauma within them. Experiences of rejection, abandonment, criticism, or emotional neglect leave imprints on the nervous system.

This emotional vulnerability does not make you weak. It makes you human.

However, individuals with strong narcissistic traits often become highly skilled at identifying emotional trigger points in others. Survivors frequently ask:

• How did they know exactly what would hurt me?
• Why did I begin doubting my own memory?
• Why is my confidence gone?
• How did I end up living in fear?

It rarely begins with obvious abuse. It begins subtly.

A comment that questions your perception.

A statement that plants doubt.

A trigger inserted casually into conversation.

Over time, you begin second-guessing yourself. Your nervous system moves into survival. You live in hypervigilance, trying to avoid the next emotional hit.

But here is the empowering truth:

The areas they targeted are not evidence of your inadequacy. They are revealing where old wounds already existed.

In a strange way, the relationship exposes the very places where healing must happen:

“I am not enough.”

“I must earn love.”

“My needs are too much.”

“I cannot trust myself.”

When you rebuild from the inside - regulating your emotions, restoring self-trust, strengthening boundaries - something powerful happens.

You stop reacting.

You stop explaining.

You stop seeking approval.

And when your trigger points are healed, manipulation loses its power.

Do not waste your energy trying to fight or expose them.

Use your energy to rebuild yourself - stronger, clearer, and deeply self-trusting.

Reclaiming Yourself After Emotional Manipulation

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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