Don’t Be Fooled by the Illusion - You Were Never the Problem

Don’t Be Fooled by the Illusion - You Were Never the Problem

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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Don’t Be Fooled by the Illusion - You Were Never the Problem

In the beginning, the narcissist made you feel like the most cherished, adored person in the world. Love bombing - grand gestures, endless compliments, and the feeling of being truly "seen." But it wasn’t love. It was manipulation. A carefully crafted facade.

Now, you see them showering someone new with the same over-the-top affection, and it stings. It makes you wonder: Were they just waiting for someone better? Was I not enough?

Here’s the truth: It was never about you. The narcissist can only maintain the mask for so long before cracks begin to show. What you are seeing now is the same act you once experienced. The cycle will repeat.

What does this mean for you?

• You did not lose to someone better.
• You were strong enough to break free.
• You are worthy of real love - consistent, kind, and unconditional.

The mask may have dropped in your relationship, but your future is limitless and free. Their story is not your story anymore. It’s time to write your own - one built on truth, self-love, and real happiness. 

Don’t Be Fooled by the Illusion - You Were Never the Problem

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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