Stop Preparing for Pain - Start Preparing for Connection

Stop Preparing for Pain - Start Preparing for Connection

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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Stop Preparing for Pain - Start Preparing for Connection

“Because of the beliefs you hold about relationships, you may have preemptive behavioural habits that could lead to frustration and heartbreak.”

So often, we prepare for pain before it even arrives.
Because of old wounds or past disappointment, we anticipate rejection, betrayal, or conflict - and act accordingly. We distance ourselves, shut down, or try to control the situation to avoid being hurt.

But in doing so, we create the very outcome we fear. Our partner feels unseen, unheard, or pushed away - and the cycle continues.

What if, instead of preparing for pain, you prepared for connection?
What if you allowed each moment to unfold without the filter of past beliefs?

When you release the need to protect yourself from imagined hurt, you open the door to genuine love, trust, and understanding - the kind of relationship your heart has been longing for.

Peace begins when you stop fighting battles that only exist in your mind.

Stop Preparing for Pain - Start Preparing for Connection

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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