Codependency Is Not Love

Codependency Is Not Love

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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Codependency Is Not Love

“A codependent relationship is the inevitable trap created by the empathic, people pleasing, enabler.”

You give, and give, and give… hoping that one day, it will be enough.
Enough to feel seen.
Enough to be loved in return.
Enough to finally feel safe.

But here’s the truth - codependency is not love.

It’s a silent contract where your worth is measured by how much you sacrifice. And the more you give, the more invisible you become.

This is not your fault.
You were likely taught that love looks like self-abandonment. That keeping the peace is more important than honoring your truth.

But here's where your power lives: in owning your role.

You are not weak for recognizing the pattern.
You are brave for being willing to shift it.

When you stop enabling, when you stop rescuing, when you stop putting yourself last—you begin to unravel the trap.

You begin to stand in your truth.

You begin to build healthy, honest, mutual relationships - starting with the one you have with yourself.

You are not here to fix everyone.
You are not responsible for someone else’s healing.
You are allowed to choose you.

This is not the end - it’s the beginning of a freer, more empowered you.

- Sue

Codependency Is Not Love

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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