How to Love Without Losing Yourself

How to Love Without Losing Yourself

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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How to Love Without Losing Yourself

“Even when I detach, I care. You can be separate from a thing and still care about it.” - David Levithan

Somewhere along the way, you started believing that to love fully, you had to lose yourself.

That the cost of connection was your individuality.
That compromise meant silencing your truth for the sake of keeping the peace.

But love isn’t about deleting yourself.

It’s not about shrinking, blending in, or becoming who you think they need you to be.
It’s about bringing your whole self into the relationship - your values, your voice, your light.

When you erase your uniqueness, the very energy that brought the relationship to life begins to fade.
What connected you can’t survive if you’re no longer fully present in it.

Detachment isn’t abandonment.

It’s the space that says:

• I can love you and still love me.
• I can hold space for your needs without compromising mine.
• I can remain rooted in who I am and still care deeply for you.

True intimacy grows when two whole individuals meet - not when one disappears into the other.

If you’ve felt lost in love, it’s time to come back home to you.
The more you honour yourself, the more honest and fulfilling your relationships become.

- Sue

How to Love Without Losing Yourself

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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