Why It’s So Hard to Leave a Narcissist

Why It’s So Hard to Leave a Narcissist

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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Why It’s So Hard to Leave a Narcissist

"The reason it is so difficult to break free from a narcissistic relationship is that you have become dependent on the narcissist for your happiness."

When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, your emotional world slowly starts revolving around their moods. You tiptoe, you second-guess, you try to "keep the peace." And somewhere in that exhausting cycle, you forget what peace actually feels like.

You lose your compass - because your happiness became dependent on someone else’s approval, on their “good” days, on avoiding their anger or silence.

The truth: happiness was never supposed to come at the cost of your identity. You were not born to be a peacekeeper in someone else's storm.

Healing after a narcissistic relationship means rediscovering what makes YOU happy. It means learning to feel safe in your own body again, learning to trust your choices, and reconnecting with the dreams you put on the shelf while trying to survive.

You are not here to manage someone else's emotions. You are here to honor your own joy and build a life rooted in self-respect, love, and freedom.

You’ve survived. Now it’s time to thrive. One breath at a time.

Why It’s So Hard to Leave a Narcissist

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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