The Hidden Weight Behind Anger

The Hidden Weight Behind Anger

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

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The Hidden Weight Behind Anger

"Anger is always more harmful than the insult that caused it." - Chinese Proverb

Anger feels immediate - like it arrives before you even realise what’s happening.

It takes over the moment.
There’s no space to pause. No time to observe. No chance to truly listen.

That’s because anger isn’t just about what’s happening now.
It’s a reaction that’s layered.

You’re not just defending yourself against this one trigger - you’re defending yourself against all the moments that ever made you feel unsafe, small, disrespected, unheard, or powerless.

And in that instant, it all comes rushing to the surface.

So yes, the reaction seems too big - because it is.

It’s years of survival packed into one outburst.

And afterward, you're left with the weight of it:
The guilt. The shame. The exhaustion.
Maybe even the fear that you've caused harm you can’t take back.

But what if you didn’t need to live in defence mode anymore?

What if you could learn to pause - not suppress, but pause - long enough to notice what’s really happening underneath?
What if you could find the courage to meet yourself there, with understanding and the tools to shift it?

You were never meant to stay stuck in your past. You were meant to grow through it.
Walk that path back to calm, back to confidence, back to peace.

The Hidden Weight Behind Anger

Sue Leppan Transformation Facilitator & Life Coach

Sue Leppan is a life, transformation and holistic wellness coach based in Sandbaai, Hermanus. Providing therapy for a range of challenges, Sue specialises in targeting and dealing with emotional trauma, self-doubt, depression, stagnation and self-centring. Whether you need help with personal issues ...

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